Serrin - I think you’re expected to have integrity from the get-go, but trust is maybe a bit more subtle in the development? I mean, it’s not immediately obvious the role that trust plays and what it can contribute to a relationship. But yeah, I think integrity and strength are more fundamental.

Mish - I’m not sure what you mean… people do love to carry on though, I can agree to that.

March - Woohoo! Voice of experience. That was quite well put I thought.

If someone distrusts you, it’s more likely because they are untrustworthy themselves.

I also had a standard line, back in my dating days. “If you don’t trust me, then why would you want to go out with me?” Followed closely with “Goodbye.”

It was a very effective way of weeding through the cheaters who tried to make up for it by being suspicious.

And, finally, I’d have to say trust - real trust - is not about thinking the other person is perfect. It’s being confident that they have your best interests at heart, all the time. That if there is a problem or a temptation, they will come to you and discuss it first, rather than acting first and letting you find out later.

Bear and I have a saying regarding our relationship- “No one gets in”. It means we come first with each other, every time. No relative, no friend, no outsider comes between us.

- M